Last time I wrote about my friend Janet and the struggles she faced in this life; how she endured and grew in her faith in the process. I wrote "I can honestly say I don't want easy. I want to endure the hard stuff with joy and faith. To set my eyes on things above. To finish strong!"
I've thought about this quite a bit recently. I meant what I said. But I want to make something a bit clearer. The thing that really marked Janet's life wasn't that she faced hard times, it was the fact that she faced them with peace and even joy. She could do so only because she had a thriving, dependent relationship with the One true Savior, Jesus.
Not wanting easy doesn't mean making it hard on ourselves. It doesn't mean striving and straining to do more or be more. It doesn't mean taking on fifteen things when God's only called us to two. There's a name for that: perfectionism. Perfectionism is the opposite of peace. And peace is found in God Himself through Jesus Christ (Phil 4:6-7).
In this life we will face trials. Life can be tough! It's inevitable. That's part of living in this world. But we don't need to go out looking for crosses to bear. We don't have anything to prove to God, or anyone else. I heard a quote recently from Luis Palau, "God is not disillusioned with us. He never had any illusions to begin with." We need to be discerning to follow His lead...only where He leads us.
When we know and follow Jesus closely we can face the ups and downs of life with peace in our hearts. We can choose to rest in His love for us. We can know where our hope is found, in Him. We can know we are not alone and that we can Trust everything He does (Psalm 33:4). We can even find joy in the process (James 1:2-3). Life will be better, easier in that way. We can be grateful for that.
Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.
Matthew 11:29-30
In this way hard can equal easy!
How about we hang up those heavy yokes of striving, proving and perfectionism...
I've spent so much of my life being "strong". As a young girl I built up walls to protect myself from the feelings of grief and loss, fear and sadness I felt. I decided I would no longer allow myself to cry; to me a sign of weakness. I refused it. And for years, I pushed back the tears, to the point where they just didn't come anymore. I still felt things. I just didn't often show it. I put on a smile. I was an extra good girl. I was "fine" always.
I grew up in church. I went to Christian school. I knew all the right words and phrases. I knew the right scripture verses. I saw all the "perfect" people; how private they were and just how strong, and always okay, they were. I learned how to be strong, or at least how to fake it. Although no one ever said it, I learned by example you hide weakness and try to overcome it. To look good, because we're suppose to be strong...and full of faith...always peaceful...full of joy...never wavering...and never weak. At least that's what I learned.
Yes, scripture does teach us to look to Christ for strength and peace and joy in all circumstances and not to waver from our faith. But that's not ALL scripture teaches us...
For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven. A time to be born and a time to die. A time to plant and a time to harvest. A time to kill and a time to heal. A time to tear down and a time to build up. A time to cry and a time to laugh. A time to grieve and a time to dance.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-3
Really? Did you catch that? A time to cry. A tie to laugh. A time to grieve. A time to dance.
It's not a sin to cry...or grieve. It's not a sin to be sick, weary, downhearted, disappointed, angry or depressed either (check out David in the Psalms, my friends). We do not have to feel guilty for it. It's okay not to be okay all the time. In fact, it is healthy to work through those normal, human feelings. Yes, there will be a day when we will laugh again, there is a time for that too. But that day doesn't have to be today. Today we can cry on His shoulder because He understands. Yes, Jesus, understands...
He was despised and rejected— a man of sorrows, acquainted with deepest grief. We turned our backs on him and looked the other way. He was despised, and we did not care.
Yet it was our weaknesses he carried; it was our sorrows that weighed him down.
Isaiah 53:3-4
Paul asked the LORD to take his afflictions from Him, but...
Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in (your) weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me. That’s why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong. II Corinthians 12:9-11
If we are never weak, and honest about it, than how can God be shown strong in our lives? If we're so dependent on our own strength how will we ever boast in His strength in us; how He works in our very real, broken lives? How else can we learn just how sufficient His grace is for us?
Dare I say it? It is in the times of sorrow, weakness and trial that we turn more fully to the One who is our true strength. It is in those times that we allow Him to do His work in us and realize our utter dependence on Him. It is when we draw closer to Him...and we recognize just how close He is to us.
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.
Psalm 34:18
We should not despise this refining, sanctifying, maturing time. Some Christians seem to think that if we were better Christians these trying times would not come or if we had stronger faith things would go well for us or that God promised us smooth sailing. God did not promise us that hard times would not come. He did promise us that He would walk through them with us, protecting us.
Do not be afraid, for I have ransomed you. I have called you by name; you are mine. When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you. For I am the Lord, your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior.
Isaiah 43: 1-3
What a beautiful promise! Once we've walked through the difficulties of life, we can, in turn, comfort others with the same comfort we have received. We become witnesses to His faithfulness. Our faith is strengthened. If we never experienced hardship, how could we relate or know how to comfort those hurting around us?
He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.
II Corinthians 1:4
How can others be blessed if we're never honest enough about our weaknesses and pain to allow them to comfort us, to pray for us, to help as the hands and feet of Christ should? It's a double blessing, for us and them. What if we're so busy being strong and courageous that we make others feel as I felt, that being HUMAN is wrong? We live in a fallen world where troubles come. Life is not easy. We need each other. We are the body of Christ...
For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your faith; if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead, do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully.
Romans 12:4-7
In recent years I have been humbled time and time again. Hard times and hard things have taken me to my knees in prayer. . I began to clearly see that walls I built around myself for protection were really a barrier. Thankfully the LORD has opened my eyes to see my need for HIS strength...and the support of His people. My definition and understanding of true strength has changed. Those walls are slowly coming down, stone by stone. I know I can't do it alone. Sometimes I need help. That's okay. It's okay to cry. It's okay to be weak and vulnerable, to be REAL. It's okay to allow others in. It's okay to not be okay all the time, not fully anyway.
It's in Him and His people that I find comfort and hope. And it's in the hard times that I have matured the most. I have seen the goodness of the LORD.
No matter what you or I are going through...
There will be a day when we will see the good He promised to us in all of this, in everything (Romans 8:28).
There will be a day when we feel strong again (Philippians 4:13).
Even in the midst of this we can find joy and thankfulness in knowing HE is near (Psalm 145:18).
He is our hope (Psalm 33:20).
He will turn our tears to gladness (Psalm 30:11).
We will be okay...as long as we keep turning to Him.
But it's okay not to be totally okay today...
Just keep going to the One who heals and allow Him to bind your wounds.
(Psalm 147:3)
Joy will come in the morning!
This song by Jason Gray has recently ministered to my soul. Take the time to listen...and be blessed.
The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is upon me,
for the Lord has anointed me
to bring good news to the poor.
He has sent me to comfort the brokenhearted
and to proclaim that captives will be released
and prisoners will be freed.
He has sent me to tell those who mourn
that the time of the Lord’s favor has come,
and with it, the day of God’s anger against their enemies.
To all who mourn in Israel,
he will give a crown of beauty for ashes,
a joyous blessing instead of mourning,
festive praise instead of despair.
In their righteousness, they will be like great oaks
Sometimes I feel so small. I feel insignificant, of little use or value. I live in the boonies, not even a small town. I'm not rich or famous. I'm not "special" by the world's standards. I'm just me; a farmer's wife.
My days are spent taking care of small things. Two small children. Seemingly menial tasks. Small ministries, at least in numbers.
It's easy to feel small in such a big world. I tell God this and He lovingly corrects me.
The enemy of my soul would love to keep me feeling small. To lead me to believe that I have no influence or power. The Truth of God's Word tells me different. In His Word I find that:
God has good plans for ME!
The Savior of the world knows me, sees me, loves me and has a purpose for my life.
I am significant and what I do matters. It matters very much.
In the small stuff...that really adds up to the big stuff!
Not only in the small, but especially in the small. In the every day, mundane stuff of life.
In the seemingly insignificant one on one contact with those in my unique sphere of influence.
What I do for the least of these...
It matters!
God wants me to see that. And He wants to do even more. He doesn't want me to miss the joy and opportunity He has for me in the small.
When we are faithful in the small...
He gives even more...
More of Him which means:
More insight, wisdom and revelation.
More faith and hope.
More joy and peace.
More strength and courage.
And isn't that what I want?! More of Him and less of me. To become smaller. Small isn't so bad. When I become smaller, He becomes greater in me.
So although I am valued, loved and powerful in the name of Jesus...no, because I am all of those things...I am okay with being "small". And I will choose to see the miracle and joy in the every day stuff of life. All of it...every part...matters!
"Who dares despise the days of small things..." Zechariah 4:10
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I'm participating in Five Minute Friday. Okay, so I'm a day late, but who's really keeping track, right?! :)
This is a time when I write on one word for five minutes. This weeks one word prompt was "Small".
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Today I'm joining the Five Minute Friday link up with the prompt "Write". I will write for 5 minutes flat with no editing. Here goes...
Write. It's what I like to do. It's also one of the things that frustrates me the most. I promised myself I would do more of it this year. I want to. I write in my head all the time. But time never seems adequate enough to get it down on paper or to sit at a keyboard and let it flow.
I see the value in writing. Yet, I have two blogs that I don't write on a enough. A prayer journal that "should be" fuller. Letters, emails, blog posts and journal entries that stay in my head. Things I could write to encourage others and even myself. Why don't I write more?
Lack of time. Busyness. Writers block and fuzzy thoughts some days. Or maybe I don't write because I'm not disciplined enough. Or because I'm such a perfectionist that my words never seem good enough. Maybe it's a combination of these things.
But each time I think I will quit, I'm reminded of something I wrote that stuck (in my heart and mind or someone else's). Each time I feel overwhelmed and wonder if it matters, someone tells me how much a certain post, handwritten message or email helped them....or compelled them...or encouraged them. When I start to think that everything else is "more important", I'm reminded (again) that it certainly does matters. My words matter. What I write matters. And it matter Who I'm ultimately writing it for!
Fact: I need to take the time to write. It's an outlet and a ministry opportunity.
So I wrote today, here and there. And I will continue to try to write as He leads, letting go of the rest.
How about you? Do you write? Remember, it does matter.
Today I am joining the 5 Minute Friday link up with the prompt "Write". I wrote for 5 minutes without editing. To see what others had to say on this subject, click the link above!
I love how each of us have our own unique sphere of influence. All of us have a unique story, maybe similar to another's story, but never identical. I love how God uses the circumstances of our lives, and the people in it, to influence us. How we learn and grow and change. Then, if we're brave enough, we can share our experience with others...so that they too can praise God for all He's done
That's just what my big (little) sister is doing (I call her that because although she's my older sister, she's smaller than me, as you can see in the picture above). My sister, Deena, started her own blog. She has quite a story. And I'm sooo proud of her for stepping out to share it!
Remember if you have been saved by God's redeeming grace YOU have a story too! So, what is your story? It may not be like Deena's or mine. But it's your story and it matters. Share it. See what God will do!
And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose for them. Romans 8:28
Since the last time I blogged I had a Birthday. Good ol' 37 years. "How did I get here?" I sometimes wonder. But then, I remember, I lived all of those 37 years. Although I can't remember most of them, I did live them. Maybe that's why I feel so worn out. :)
Sometimes I blame it on my kids. Sometimes I blame my husband, the farm, the garden or the housework. Sometimes I blame my health issues and physical struggles. But, most of the time, I realize I'm worn out because this life is wearing. It truly is.
There are so many challenges in our world. It's easy to feel pushed, pulled, needed, demanded, over-committed, over-stimulated, over-booked and rushed all the time. Which can lead us to become all together stressed, anxious and worn out! Especially when we're doing all that we do within our own power.
Ugh!
When I'm feeling worn out (like today) I remember these Scripture verses, their message often lost in their familiarity,
"Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, for I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." Matthew 11:28-30
I don't have to be strong enough, good enough or just enough of anything. He is enough!
He promised that if we come to Him, depend on and abide in Him, that He will give us rest. And, unlike others, He never breaks His promises. We can trust the one who is enough.
I didn't plan to write this blog post today. Yet, as I thought of this, I felt compelled to share. Maybe there's someone else who needs this reminder today. Maybe that person is you.
Let's come to Him today and lay our burdens at His feet. For He will give us, the worn out ones, rest!
Even my little ones get down right worn out. Noah (3) fell asleep at the lunch table a few days ago. :) Now, that's tired!
Not for comments or traffic or anyone else’s agenda. But for pure love of the written word. For joy at the sound of syllables, sentences and paragraphs all strung together by the voice of the speaker.
Just write without worrying if it’s just right or not. For five minutes flat with no editing, tweaking or self critiquing (seriously hard for me...and that's why I need to do it!).
Okay, so it's Saturday. Hey, it just didn't work for me to write yesterday. That's life. I want to write today on Lisa's chosen word of the week, "Comfort" anyway. So here goes...
Go...
So many in my little corner of the world are suffering. One friend lost her mother yesterday. Another lost her unborn baby this past week. Two couples that live near us lost their young babies recently. Others are going through extremely challenging times in their lives.
The truth is, it seems we're all going through one thing or another. Some more life changing than others, but all are significant to the one facing them.
My heart aches for these loved ones, and even strangers. My only comfort is knowing that the Comforter hears my prayers of requested comfort, hope and peace for them. Much like the many prayers He answered when I went through my miscarriages.
I'm so thankful I know He hears my prayers, He is faithful to answer and...
"He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." Psalm 147:3
I can do what He shows me to do.
But even when I don't have the right words. When I don't know what to do. When I can't be there.
HE is there...comforting as only He can!
What a comfort!
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What is a perfect body? In this modern day culture we have all kinds of images thrown at us. From airbrushed magazine covers to plastic filled movie stars, we're told what "real" beauty looks like. Young girls sense it from an early age. We become increasingly aware as we mature. We've been looking at these images (and more and more of them all the time) from the earliest we can remember. It's easy to see where our culture places beauty on the importance scale. It's also easy to see how our value is often linked to our image.
This year I've made a commitment to focus on my health, taking steps toward a healthier lifestyle. I even started a second blog about my health journey. As a result of greatly cutting out refined food, unnatural sugars and other things and adding in more "real" food as well as a little extra exercise, I've lost a few pounds. That feels good. But...a perfect body? Is that possible? What is a perfect body anyway?
Hey, I've under slept and overeaten most of my life. I've had surgeries, and I proudly display various battle scars. By golly, I've even carried and given birth to two 8 and a half pound babies. This body ain't never going to be "perfect" again. Not that it really ever was, not according to the standards of the world. I've never been the Hollywood type. Reality, I never will be. Perfect is an illusion when it comes to looks.
The problem is, our culture changes the definition of perfect every time we turn around. Not only that, we tend to change our definition too.
So, I think the true question is how does God define a perfect body? Because, really, He's the One we are here to glorify, not others or self. Right?!
Before I go any further, I have to tell you, I believe God shows us clearly in His Word that He expects us to care for the "temple" He's given us. It's obviously not right to abuse our bodies...and then expect them to work well for us. We need to be good stewards of what God's given us. That includes our body. If we want a healthy body, one that's well and able to do the work He's called us to do, then we will need to take the time to care for it as we should. Sooo...what I'm about to write is not an excuse to neglect the outside. Rather, it's a reminder to focus firston what's on the inside, then work outward. :)
Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
So, I ask again, how does God define a perfect body? I think He sees a perfect body as one indwelled by His Holy Spirit! A soul empty of self, acceptable for His inhabitanance. Now, that's a body He can use!
Turns out I can dress up the outside, workout 'til I'm blue in the face and eat every healthy vegetable I can find and still find myself with a hollow, ugly body in God's eyes. Cellulite, decay and deficiency of the heart.
Isn't that just like us humans, getting all caught up in the perishable things we can see while losing sight of the truly important, eternal things? We need to focus! God is looking for bodies He can use. People who will die to self and walk in the Spirit. God's Son, Jesus, came and gave His body so we could, not only have eternal life, but abundant life now. We must give up our life to gain it. Not that we're always going to get it right, we're not. But we must choose to die to self, over and over again, so that Christ can live through us.
Although I'm about 100% sure I'll never reach the world's "perfect body" definition, I now realize I can have a perfect body in God's eyes! I can be a body He can indwell and use for His glory!
What a joy to know when He looks at me, He doesn't see what everyone else sees. He sees my heart, His temple. My body, His image. I can love my body, so called flaws and all, because He does. And His definition of perfection never changes. :)
But the LORD said....The LORD doesn't see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart." I Samuel 16:7
Friend, you can have a perfect body too! :)
And so, dear brothers and sisters,I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him.Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. Romans 12:1-2
Today I'm linking up with the Jill Savage's Hearts at Home Blog Hop. Click the link below to read more of what others had to say on this subject.
I like yard sales. I like them a lot. I like finding bargains. I like finding treasures among the trash. I’m teaching my boys to enjoy them too.
Recently, I’ve had the pleasure of going to quite a few yard sales, good ones where I’ve found plenty of cheap treasures. They may not look like much to someone else, but I love taking them home to renew them and put them to use.
Today, I stopped at a sale. I found an old wooden chair for a dollar. Nothing special. It has it’s dings, obvious wear and tear. But I love it. I sat it on my front porch. I sat an old, metal watering can on it. The watering can has a hole in it, so I filled it with potting soil and plopped in a flower. It’s nothing special, but it is a treasure to me. It makes me smile.
The saying is true, one man’s trash truly is another man’s (or…ahem…woman’s) treasure!
I think this must be how God feels about us, His people. He likes to take us in, dings and all. He sees the treasure in us when others don’t. We may not look like anything special to others, but we do to Him. To Him we are special. We are His treasure. He renews us and gives us a new position…right out there where everyone can see. We’re His…and we make Him smile.
We are a lot more special than an old wooden chair and a holey watering can. He has plans for us that reach beyond our wildest dreams, if we will merely trust Him and follow His lead. When we belong to Him, and we continue to seek after Him, He just keeps renewing us!
He renews our spirit (Psalm 51:10) daily (II Corinthians 4:16).
He renews our mind (Romans 12:2).
He renews our strength (Isaiah 40:31).
He renews our whole life! (Colossians 3:1-11).
I love this verse, “Put on your new nature, and be renewed as you learn to know your Creator and become like Him.” Colossians 3:10
Although he accepts us dings and all, we don’t have to stay an old wooden chair or a holey watering can! He will make us new and just keep renewing. The more we get to know Him, the more we will want to be like Him, the more He will do in us. Isn’t that amazing?!
Do you need to be renewed today? Remember you are His treasure, dings and all. Seek after Him. Talk to Him. Trust Him. Follow Him. Remember He loves YOU. Let Him renew you today!
Thank you, Lord, for seeing the treasure in us even when others don’t. For accepting us dings and all. For loving us, and making a way for us to have new life. For renewing us daily, when we turn to You. Help us to put on our new nature, as we learn more about You and desire to become more like You. Make something beautiful out of our lives. Amen.
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Need a day of renewal?! Join us at ReNEWED Life Women's Eventfeaturing national speaker and author Lisa Whittle! I am thrilled to be part of the ministry team working to bring this exciting event to small town Cresco, Iowa. I would love to see YOU there on August 11th! P.S. See, God can use old, dinged up “treasures” like me (and you too!). ;)
Our topic at MOPS this month was “self-control”. Probably not the most popular topic. I mean, who really wants to talk about denying self, right? And, yet, I think it’s an important subject. If you are anything like me, you have probably felt more “out of control” than “self-controlled” in one area or another at some point in time…maybe even right now. Does self-control seem out of reach? Impossible? Unrealistic? I have felt like that at times and, in some areas of my life, I feel like that now. Yet, God’s Word says to think clearly and exercise self-control (see I Peter 1:13). Do you think He would have instructed us to exercise self-control if it were impossible to do so? Remember what you feel and what is true are often two different things. I’m definitely not an expert when it comes to self-control. I still struggle in areas. But, I have learned a few things on the subject in my lifetime that I would like to share with my Christian friends, and remind myself of, at the same time. 1. It is not impossible! You can change! How do I know? I use to bite my fingernails down to the wick. I quit. I was in a destructive relationship and living a destructive lifestyle. I was able to change. I use to recklessly spend money. I got out of debt and am now very frugal. If I can do it, you can too! Nothing is impossible with God! (Luke 1:37) 2. You can not do it alone (but you can do it)! It takes reliance on the Holy Spirit. You can try all the positive thinking techniques and “fast and easy” schemes out there. They might even work for a time. But, most likely, you’ll fall back into old habits. Truly practicing self-control requires a dependence on what I call “Spirit-control”. Knowing we can not do it within our own strength, but we can do all things through Christ who gives us strength (Philippians 4:13). I’ve heard people say, “God never gives us more than we can handle.” I believe God gives us more than we can handle all the time, but He never gives us more than He can help us handle! You are able because He is able!
“But the Holy Spirit produces...self-control…Those who belong to Christ Jesus have nailed the passions and desires of their sinful nature to his cross and crucified them there. Since we are living by the Spirit, let us follow the Spirit’s leading in every part of our lives.” Galatians 5:22-25
3. You aren’t going to “just change”! It takes a lot of Thinking and Praying to see lasting results! It requires a change of mindset. We have to think about what we are doing rather than merely going through the motions of everyday life. It takes active effort and thought. Even more so, it requires persistent prayer. We have to ask God for strength, will-power and to help us think clearly. We have to speak to Him often, asking for His help, throughout the day. We must recognize our moment by moment dependence on Him. Perhaps that is why His Word tells us to pray without ceasing (I Thessalonians 5:17). 4. The enemy will try to discourage you! Don’t let him. You’re probably going to mess up at some point. A mess up doesn’t equal failure. Instead of beating yourself up, repent, move on and do better next time. He will tell you that you “can’t” and that you “won’t” and that your not able. He is a liar! He wants you to give up. Stand on the truth of God’s faithful Word rather than the whispers of a lying thief whose goal is to destroy you (I Peter 5:8). He wants to keep you in a place of defeat. If you are a believer, remember greater is He (the Holy Spirit) that is in you, than he that is in the world (the enemy)! (I John 4:4) Self-control truly is not out of reach. We don’t have to live feeling like areas of our life are “out of our control”. God gave His Holy Spirit to those of us who believe for direction and power. Wherever you are struggling, know He knows and cares and will help you if you seek Him. Let’s review! We must remember, it is NOT impossible. We can not do it alone, but we CAN do it! It takes thinking and praying. And although the enemy will try to discourage us, God’s Word is full of encouragement!
"So do not fear, for I am with you; be not dismayed because I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." Isaiah 41:10
I find that I’m all too easily distracted. Does any of this sound familiar to you?
I get a few jobs done while my boys are napping, so I sit down to write or read my Bible. I notice the bathroom light on. I think, “I better turn that off.” As I do, I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror. Look at my hair! I think, “I better do something with this mop!” I fix my hair and my makeup…right after I clean the dirty toilet and sink. I remember that I’m suppose to be writing or reading, so I sit back down. Boy, I sure am thirsty. I go to the cupboard to get a glass. Suddenly I remember the laundry in the dryer. I fold the load of laundry, then remember to make myself a glass of tea. I finally sit back down. Out of no where I remember that e-mail I’m suppose to return. I log on. I hop onto Facebook. Fifteen minutes pass before I remember to return that e-mail, you know, the one I logged on to return. I remind myself to get back to writing and reading. I sit down. My boys wake up from their naps. They need my attention. I didn’t write or read. I was DISTRACTED.
I think it’s human nature to get distracted. But, I believe this place called distraction is just the place the enemy of our soul wants to keep us. In fact I believe his two greatest schemes are DISTACTION and DISCOURAGEMENT.
Think about it, whether we’re distracted by our own faults or insecurities, our long to do list or responsibilities, our trials and tribulations, or just by life in general, we lose focus. When we lose focus, we tend to get discouraged. When we’re discouraged, we become even more distracted. We tend to focus on the lesser things rather than the more important things. When we’re distracted and discouraged, we’re less fruitful. And we aren’t experiencinb the abundantly life God promised us! If he can keep us there, he wins!
Perhaps that’s why Paul felt the need to warn us:
"…do whatever will help you serve the Lord best,
with as few distractions as possible.”
I Corinthians 7:35
Recently I have sensed the Lord guiding me to simplify my life. Less distractions. More focus on what is really important, Him and others. That means giving up some things and not wasting time, because I know this life is fleeting. It also means being aware of how easily distracted I am (and most of us are), and making a conscience effort to stay on track. I only have so much time. Why waste it on the lesser things? Why waste my days being distracted and discouraged when He has provided all I need to be focused and encouraged?
“Don’t be afraid for I am with you.
Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God.”
Isaiah 41:10
I'm not saying we should shed every ambition, in fact, we shouldn't. I am saying, there is a time and a place for everything (even facebook, if you so desire). And, of course, there are household chores that we all must do. I mean, who else is going to do your dishes, right? But the old saying “First things first” applies here.
We must focus on the more important things first! Then, the other things will fall into their proper places.
“Jesus replied, ‘You must love the LORD your God with all your heart,
all your soul, all your strength, and all your mind. T
his is the first and greatest commandment.
A second is equally important:
Love your neighbor as yourself.’” Matthew 22:37-39
We were created to be people of influence. However, we will never be all God created us to be, if we allow distraction and discouragement to overcome us. Not only will we miss out, those around us will too. We can’t afford that!
Ironically, the antidote for discouragement is the very thing we are distracted from. We must find time to be in God’s Word, to fill our minds with His truth. And if we only understood, really understood, even as the enemy understands, the power we have in prayer, we would never fail to spend time in conversation with God. If we seek Him, we will find Him. When we follow Him as our Good Shepherd, He gives us a rich, satisfying, and abundant life (see John 10:10), not discouragement and distraction.
“Always be full of joy in the Lord. I say it again - rejoice!
…Don’t worry about anything, instead pray about everything.
Tell God what you need, and thank Him for all He has done.
Then you will experience God’s peace which exceeds anything
we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and
minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:4, 6-7
If you are a follow of Jesus Christ, remember all that you possess in His name! I know life comes with many challenges, but He supplies all we need (see Philippains 4:19)! It’s all too easy to forget. Don’t allow the enemy to bully you, and keep you in these places of Distraction and Discouragement. Spend time with the Lord daily, being strengthened, refreshed and rejuvenated. You will find yourself more FOCUSED and ENCOURAGED, influencing others and living the life of peace God promised to those of us who seek Him!
I was feeling a bit sorry for myself. It’s embarrassing to write, but it is true. Poor me. Why me?
We think, Noah, our youngest has a wheat intolerance. And I believe I do too, except I have often chosen to ignore it. I know I feel better when I cut wheat (and dairy) out of my diet. But, do you know how hard it is to eliminate wheat in our modern day American culture? Do you know that (at least it seem like) wheat is in almost every processed food available to us? That means none of our regular store bought breads, pastas, granola bars, pizzas, cookies, cereals, etc. Not only that, many of our condiments contain wheat and so do Campbell’s creamed soups…and the list goes on and on.
I enjoy cooking, but I’ve never learned to cook completely from scratch. No, I’ve always used those shortcuts that are so typical in most American kitchens. Do you know how much more time consuming it is cooking completely from scratch? This means relearning how to make almost everything.
Then, the thought hit me, “We will never be able to go out to eat again!” No more Pizza Hut or McDonald’s…not that either are healthy or even my favorite. Yet, they are convenient and to think that we can never eat at those restaurants again…ugh! How will we ever travel to Indiana to visit my family without a routine stop at McDonald’s?!
One day my mind was fixated on all the things we can’t eat and how I was going to readjust our “normal”. That night I read our oldest his nightly devotional. It retold the story of Eve in the garden. Hopefully, you’re familiar with this true tale. God told Adam and Eve they could eat from any of the trees in the perfect Garden of Eden except for one. The serpent tempted them. They ate from the forbidden tree.
In Andrew’s devotional it pointed out that there were many different kinds of trees in the garden. God told them they could eat from all those trees except for one. And yet, when they were tempted, they chose to eat the forbidden fruit. This was the beginning of the fall of man.
This spoke to my heart on so many different levels.
First, this was a reminder that God has provided many other food options for us. There are many other grains besides wheat. In addition, we have a deep freeze full of Angus Beef (best steaks, burger, roasts, even brats and wieners you ever tasted!). We have whole chickens, sweet corn, green beans, salsa, strawberries and jam in the freezer. We have our own canned applesauce, jelly and juice. We have chickens that lay fresh eggs for us every day. Not only that, there are tons of wheat free options at our local grocery store (there are more and more gluten free/wheat free options available these days than ever before), plus various meats, fruits and veggies. No more McDonald's...so what? I get healthy, nurishing food!
In reality, I just need to change my way of thinking…and do what is best and healthiest for my family.
Then, it hit me. This is like so many other things in my life. Sometimes my focus gets stuck on what I can’t have or what I don’t have, rather than on everything else God has provided for me.
I am so blessed! Yet, sometimes I focus on the stains on my living room carpet more than the little blessings from God who made them. Sometimes I focus on all the things that are “wrong” with the house, rather than all the things that are “right”. Sometimes I wonder why I can’t do this thing or that thing today, rather than “one of these days”, and I forget all that I do get to do today!
In November, I stepped down from my role on the Rise & Shine Women’s Retreat leadership team. It was a tough decision because I love that ministry. It is especially dear to my heart because I was one of original team members who helped start the conference. I enjoyed my role on the team, and found my God-given gifts were well put to use. And still, I felt God tugging at my heart to step back and focus more on my number one ministry, one He also called me to…home.
It seems like it should be easy to make a decision to simply “stay home” with the ones I love the most. It wasn’t…and still isn’t. Of course, it doesn’t makes sense to continue doing something, something I was doing for Him in the first place, when He has clearly showed me that it is time to step back. And still, at times, I feel a grief rise up in me over the loss of this role. I wonder why I can’t continue on (even though, in reality, the answer is right before me). I know He has called me into women’s ministry, so it doesn’t completely make sense. Yes, I’m still coordinating our local MOPS group, and I enjoy that. But, why would God want to “take this away from me”?
Then, I am reminded of all that He has given! I get to be a wife and a mom! I looooove being a wife and mom! I love my family! Even in a culture that generally devalues these roles, He does not!! He has chosen me for these role. What an honor! In this season of life, home is where I need to be most. My husband and sons are gifts from Him, whom I get to nurture. He isn’t taking anything away, He’s giving me an opportunity!! Although sometimes I feel so inadequate, He equips me for these daily roles, and is building my character for future ones.
Not only that, it’s amazing that I ever got to be on the Rise & Shine leadership team in the first place! What a wonderful experience! I learned so much about Him, myself and ministry. I will cherish the memories, remember the lessons and apply much of what I learned throughout the rest of my life…even now as I get to help encourage other moms at MOPS.
Furthermore, I see all He has provided. Not only has He provided a way to eternal life for me through Jesus Christ, He provides all I need for each day. I reflect on the destructive road I was once headed down, how He provided a way out, and gave me this life, one better than I had ever dared to dream of. I’m not perfect, I still fail Him and yet, He forgives me again (and again). He continues to love me.
Another thought: sometimes people get so fixated on what they can’t do as a Christian (or if they became one) that they loose sight of what God provides for those who love, honor and obey Him. They don’t want to give up what they want, but forget about the peace, hope and joy it will bring if they surrender their will to Him.
In reality, I don’t want my way, I want God’s best…in all areas of my life!
No more feeling sorry for myself. I must change my focus from what I can’t do and what I don’t have to all He has provided! I am grateful!!
Could you use a change of focus too?
…be content with what you have, because God has said,
"Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you." Hebrews 13:5
This is a repost from March 8, 2011. Read it myself this morning and felt the urge to repost it...
Have you ever noticed how easy it is to look at someone else’s life and think they have it “all together”…that they’re so happy…so “perfect”…doing so much better than us? Looks are often deceiving!
A friend told me a while back that she sees me and my life as “perfect”. I gasped and almost laugh out loud when she said it. “What? Get real!” I said.
My friends comment bothered me because I thought she knew me better than that. She knows my past (because she was there with me through some of the worst of times), but I guess she doesn’t really know my present.
She sees the thankful and cheerful Facebook posts, pictures of me and my smiling family. She sees the yearly Christmas letters and Christian blog posts. She doesn’t see the in and out, everyday life that I live. The dirty diapers, wiped tears and toilet scrubbing. She doesn’t see the messes. She doesn’t see me tired and weary. She doesn’t see my bad attitude and temper flare up like (it pains me to say) my husband and little sons do. These aren’t things that we tend to post on Facebook or put in Christmas letters, now are they? Nope, we tend to only put the best “out there” for the world to see, don't we?!
Although I’m very, very thankful for all God has done in my life, for His salvation and blessings. And although I continue to grow, learn and draw closer to Him as the days pass, I am not “perfect” and life is not constantly bliss. And I certainly hope that I’m not giving that ‘fake” impression to people. I want to be real! I want my friends to know that they are not alone in their struggles! We may not have the exact same struggles, but we all have some. If I'm always giving off this "better than thou" impression, it makes it difficult for others to be real with me. I don't want that!
I AM forgiven. I AM loved. I AM free in Christ. But, perfect I am not. The only perfect one is God and anything that is good in me, comes from Him.
The day I surrendered my heart and life to the Lord all of my struggles did not vanish. It is a daily process. Life is hard at times. I am all too human. There are times when I don’t feel very “Christian” (mainly when I take the focus off of my Savior and put it on myself). Have you ever been there?
There are days when I feel the weight of the world on my shoulders even though I know it’s not a weight I have to bear alone. Times when I don’t feel like praying although I’ve learned that’s when I need to pray the MOST! Sometimes past habits, thought processes and feelings rise up within me. There are areas where I feel like I should be stronger, more mature, yet I am not. I want to do better, but I battle my sinful human flesh. That’s because I haven’t “arrived” and the truth is I never will. And neither will anyone else, on this side of heaven. My friend is comparing what she sees on the "outside" of me with what she knows is on the "inside" of her.
Let’s get real! Life is not easy. God never promised us that life would be easy.
So what’s so great about being a Christian? God did promise us that if we choose to follow Him, He will be with us and give us the strength we need . Because I know the Savior, I know who IS good! God is good and I know He lives within me! The “old me” didn’t have the reassurance and peace that I now know. The “new me” wants to do better!
Today, despite what I feel or what struggle I’m facing, I know where to turn. When I feel those bad attitudes rising up inside of me, I know WHO can help! No matter where I am or what I have done, I know He is good and will forgive me when I sincerely come to Him. I know He is faithful!
When I feel unlovable, He loves me anyway. He is my loving Father who will never leave nor forsakes me…so in reality I have no need to be lonely or to give into my fleshly desires. When I am weak and weary, He will give me the strength I need. I have no reason to worry, I can cast all my cares on Him. Although I am not perfect, I am covered by His blood. There is hope for me because He is sooo good! Isn’t it reassuring to know we don’t have to be perfect to be forgiven?!
Let’s get real! My life is not “perfect” and I am not "perfect" (whatever that is)! But, His love IS perfect…and that’s what is real!
Do you know where to turn when you feel so much less than perfect? Do you realize that you’re not alone in your struggles? Do you know you are loved? Let’s get real with one another! Let’s turn to the one who IS perfect…and let Him change our lives forever! Let's love each other through all the imperfection...and grow together!
God is love, and all who live in love live in and God, and God lives in them. And as we live in God, our love grows more perfect. So as we live in God, our love grows more perfect. So we will not be afraid on the day of judgment, but we can face him with confidence because we live like Jesus here in this world. Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear… I John 4:16-18
This summer we had an impromptu MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) picnic at a local park. Five of us moms and our children gathered together for a little fellowhsip time. I took this picture during our time together.
A couple of weeks ago I was looking at this picture and thought about each of these kids - each so cute, so uniquely created by God (knit together in their mother's womb), each such a blessing, so loved and so special - especially to their mamas and especially to GOD. They have so much potential! One may grow up to be a doctor, another a teacher, or a missionary or the president of the United States (Lord, help them!)...and most likely many of them will grow up to be moms and dads. They could grow to be very influential people!
Then, the thought came to me, they're not the only ones with potential. God has a plan for each of our lives...and part of that plan for us moms is to be the best mom possible. MOPS Internationals slogan is "Better Moms Make a Better World" and it's so true. But, whether you are a mom or not, God has a plan for your life and you can make a difference in this world by touching the lives of those around you! You have so much potential in Christ! You can grow to be an influential person!
I only wish we could see ourselves, the way our Heavenly Father sees us. Our face doesn't blend in with all the others in "the picture". He loves each of us personally. He knows just why He created us the way He did. He cares about every detail of our lives. He KNOWS we have so much potential IF we will surrender our lives to Him and follow His lead. He has big plans for His children, plans that might surprise us...but we must look to Him or we will never fulfill them. We don't have to worry, He will give us all we need to accomplish these world changing feats if we follow Him closely day by day and moment by moment!
Now, let's live up to our potential!! Seek Him and His will and nothing will be impossible for you!
"I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength."
Philippians 4:13
"No eye has seen,
no ear has heard,
no mind has conceived
what God has prepared for those
who love Him"
I Corinthians 2:9
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord,
plans to prosper you and not to harm you,
plans to give you hope and a future."
Jeremiah 29:11
P.S. There is a registration GIVEWAY over on the Rise & Shine Women's Retreat blog. You could win a FREE registration for you and a friend!! Rise & Shine is a great place to learn more about growing to your full potential. The theme for this year is: "Making An Ordinary Life Extraordinary"! :) CLICK HERE to find out how to enter to win!
Noah (13 mo) is teething. His gums are swollen. His diapers are icky. His little bottom is sore. I feel bad for him.
A few days ago, our normally very pleasant little man was rather whiney. Not sure why, but Andrew (4) seemed to join him in his whining spell.
Although I felt sorry for Noah and I love my children more than words can express, by that afternoon, I was feeling, let’s say, a bit stressed.
I started talking to the Lord, “Do you hear these kids? I don’t know how much more whining I can take. I mean, I’m doing everything I can for them and it still doesn’t seem good enough. They don’t appreciate all I do for them…blah, blah, blah.”
You get the picture. Yep, before I knew it, I realized I was having a big ol’ pity party for little ol’ me, me, me.
Suddenly it occurred to me…I was whining to my Heavenly Father about my children whining to me! Oh boy! I know God isn’t a human like me, but I can just imagine if He were, He would have been rolling His eyes at me. (Glad He doesn’t do that!)
Honestly, what do I have to whine about?! God has blessed me and my family!! He’s done so much for us! Why would I grumble to Him?
It’s amazing how quickly I can let my emotions get away from me. When I get worn down, tired or stressed, I can too easily lose perspective. Something so very small can temporarily steal my joy. Have you ever been there?
I have two GREAT kids! They’re healthy, precious and beautiful! They are a BLESSING from Him! It is an honor to be their mommy and to be able to stay home with them each day. Oh, and normally, they aren’t whiney children either. :)
I have a fabulous, hard working, supportive husband...a nice home...great friends...clothes…food…even a sleep number bed. :) My list of blessings goes on and on.
The greatest blessing: I have a Savior! A Savior who died for me, so that I don’t have to. A Savior who loves me, protects me, blesses me. A Savior whose very own Holy Spirit dwells inside of me, leading me every day. I don’t have to navigate life alone.
All of the above are God’s abundant blessings! Reasons not to whine…ever. He has shown His faithfulness to me over and over. Now, to remember!
I knew that day that I needed to refocus, to stop the whining, so I could count my blessings! I changed my whiney prayer into a prayer of thanksgiving. Although our struggles and blessings are undoubtedly not the same, will you join me in thankfulness?
Always be joyful. Never stop praying. Be thankful in all circumstances…
I Thessalonians 5:16-18
Lord, thank you for all the blessings in my life and for loving me despite my whining. Please give me the patience that I need to lovingly parent my children. Please remind me that no matter what’s going on in my life, whether something big or something small that threatens my joy, that you are a faithful, loving Father. Help me to keep perspective, to recognize the blessings from You all around me and to be thankful. And I pray the same for my dear reading friends as well. Amen.
Tell me, what are you thankful for today? I would enjoy hearing from you.
It is easy to laugh at men's ideals; it is easy to pour cold water on their enthusiasm; it is easy to discourage others. The world is full of discouragers. Many a time a word of praise or thanks or appreciation or cheer has kept a person on their feet. Blessed is the person who speaks such a word. ---William Barclay.
